Please tell me I’m not the only one struggling this much with sleep
by /u/luna_667_i on April 11, 2026 at 1:15 am
Some nights I genuinely feel like I’m losing my mind from the sleep deprivation. Baby wakes up nonstop, won’t stay asleep unless being held, screams when put in the crib, fights naps like crazy. Me and my partner are both exhausted and honestly getting irritated with each other more because we’re just SO tired all the time. Has anyone else gone through this?? what was the worst part for you? submitted by /u/luna_667_i [link] [comments]
Does anyone else feel like they stare at their own kids too much?
by /u/JinxXstarfire on April 11, 2026 at 12:45 am
Maybe its just me, but I love to take a few moments just to stare at them, seeing them interact with new things. Seeing their brains actively figuring out a problem. Correct them right away when theyre about to do something bad, I dont know I just like seeing them experiencing life for the first time. But feel a little bad for doing it too much sometimes submitted by /u/JinxXstarfire [link] [comments]
by /u/Visible_Basket_4872 on April 11, 2026 at 12:13 am
I’m 11 months postpartum and I feel like I’ve completely lost my connection with my husband. Postpartum has been really difficult and isolating for me. I’ve been breastfeeding, and for a long time we were co-sleeping, which meant I felt “stuck” at home every evening while my husband would go out and see his friends. I built up a lot of resentment around that, and I still feel it. He knows this. Now, whenever he goes out, I react—I get upset, give him attitude, or make him feel guilty in some way. I’m aware that it’s not the best way to handle things, but I can’t seem to stop feeling this way. He goes out at least once a week, either to a friend’s place or for drinks with coworkers. Meanwhile, I don’t have that same outlet. Even though we’ve stopped co-sleeping, I often don’t have the energy to go out, or I feel anxious about leaving my baby. The few times I have gone out, I’ve been glued to my phone, constantly checking the baby monitor. On top of that, my husband and I haven’t gone on a date since I gave birth. Our evenings at home feel disconnected—we’re either on our phones or watching something, with very little real interaction. I’ve brought this up several times, but he either denies that we lack quality time or says it’s just not possible to go on dates because we don’t have enough support. This postpartum period has been really heavy for me. I’ve been feeling very negative, and honestly, I think I’ve been dealing with depression. I’ve also struggled with an eating disorder that has worsened during this time. I know people suggest getting help—I’ve tried therapy, and I’m not open to medication—but I still feel stuck. I’ve asked my husband many times to plan a day date for us, but it hasn’t happened. That’s made me feel like he doesn’t want to spend time with me, which hurts. Over the past few days, I’ve been especially low. Part of it is knowing his schedule—he’s been going out multiple times this week and will also be traveling soon, followed by going out again. It just made me feel even more alone. Today, he left the house without saying bye while I was putting our baby to sleep. When I called him, we ended up fighting and he said: “I left because didn’t want to talk to you. You’ve been giving me attitude for the past few days. Why would I want to spend time with you if you’re always negative, moody, down, unhappy, and nagging? It brings me down. You want to spend time with me because I bring you peace—but you don’t bring me peace. I feel like I’m raising two kids.” He also always says that I like acting like I’m the victim. That completely broke me. I feel deeply hurt, rejected, and incredibly alone. I’m just looking for advice. Thank you Edited to add: he is helpful and involved with my baby (Feeding, bathing, putting to sleep, waking up at night). submitted by /u/Visible_Basket_4872 [link] [comments]
Transition to sleep sack from swaddle
by /u/Substantial_Pop2890 on April 11, 2026 at 12:00 am
Our 4.5 month old has started to roll and now we really need to transition to the sleep sack. He’s still in the bassinet which is helpful because there isn’t enough room to roll so he gets blocked, but we’ve been trying for so long and need some advice. We’ve tried for the past month to transition over but he keeps waking himself up with his hands once we’ve moved him to the bassinet. He’s used to the hands up swaddle, and we’ve tried the transition version to let out one arm at a time but that still wakes him up. We have also tried to go full cold turkey and completely switch to let both arms out and he lasts about 20-30mins once we’ve transferred him and then wakes himself up when he changes positions or with the startle reflex. He typically wakes himself up because his hands are rubbing his face – he does not self soothe with his fingers. We’ve only tried with naps so far, and are nervous to try with his night sleep until he’s been able to master the naps. Any advice for those who have successfully made the switch?! submitted by /u/Substantial_Pop2890 [link] [comments]
My nervous system is destroyed
by /u/Hot-Amphibian8728 on April 10, 2026 at 11:17 pm
I can feel the cortisol flood my system with the CONSTANT whining. My whole body is tense and I feel ready to explode and run away simultaneously. Baby girl is 8 months and I’m pretty sure her upper front teeth are coming in. I could crawl out of my skin. This must be an evolutionary/biological response to my offspring being in distress, right? I feel so overstimulated and enraged. I’d never take this feeling out on my sweet girl, but good lord I could tear my hair out. Doesn’t help that she wakes up 6+ times a night, every night, so I’m also running on very broken sleep. Husband works a lot and we don’t have a village nearby. Not really looking for advice, mostly just venting, possibly commiseration. Ugh. submitted by /u/Hot-Amphibian8728 [link] [comments]
When did you finally “let go” of your pre-baby clothing.
by /u/Excellent_Water3480 on April 10, 2026 at 10:50 pm
I’m 18mo postpartum, I really wanted to be one of those moms who just snapped back. Well it’s been almost two years and I haven’t. I’ve been clinging onto my pre baby clothes that are taking over my closet now that I’m buying clothes that truly fit me. Not just wearing the same three pairs of sweat pants I can still squeeze into. None of jeans from them fit (I’m nearly twice my size as before) all my cute little crop tops are too tight or show off my stretch marks that I prefer to remain hidden now. I can’t find myself to get ride of them, and keep clinging onto “someday” loosing the weight. When did you finally get rid of it all? Did you regret it or do anything special to remember your favorite “pre-baby” clothing items? submitted by /u/Excellent_Water3480 [link] [comments]
No matter what we do, our newborn falls asleep instantly breastfeeding
by /u/maaaet on April 10, 2026 at 10:22 pm
Hello there, First time father here. I want to consult the good people here. TL;DR: We have tried anything we can think of, anything we found online, and what our nurses, our LC and our doctos told us. But our 28 days old just keeps falling asleep immediately on breasts. My wife is very emotional and stressed. Any recommendations? Below, I am listing everything we have tried and summarizing what our story has been since birth. So our girl was born on March 13th, shortly after birth, the nurses visiting our hospital room tried to breastfeed our baby but told us that mother’s nipples were hard to latch onto. So they recommended us silicone nipple shields for baby and we’ve been using it ever since day 1 because baby doesn’t suck on the bare nipples without those. Later on we found out from our LC and Doctor that the silicones were not really necessary and the nipples were completely fine. Anyways… So even with the silicone nipples, the baby has been sleeping on the nipples since day 1. The behaviour is: The baby is fully awake, cries out of hunger, tries to latch on to the nipples, shakes/bumps her head a few times, latches on, closes eyes and sucks a few times and then falls asleep. With our efforts, we MAY get her to wake up and suck a few times more but that stops working after a few times and she is completely asleep almost immediately again. This is still ongoing to this day. What we have tried; -Skin-to-skin feeding -Pinching her foot -Tickling her -Playing with her hands/feet -Shaking her head -Holding her and waking her up -Laying her on her flat so she cries or wakes up -Dripping some formula or pre-pumped milk inside her mouth or inside the silicone nipple -Squeezing the breasts from each side -Breastfeeding while standing up -All sorts of positions (Normal, football, laying down, sideways, standing straight, and more) -Dripping some water on her head/body -Moving her chin to imitate the sucking motion All of the above work only for a few sucks (2-3 seconds) or don’t work at all. Then she falls asleep again. Each sleep on the breasts gets harder and harder to wake up from. This has been going on since day 1. With the recommendations from nurses, we started to feed her formula with syringe. First with 1ML and then moved on to 5ML. Doctors said it was too early for bottle and she would reject nipple. So we kept using the 5ML syringe. After every breasfeed, we were giving her 10-30 ML of formula. However, on day 2 and day 3, the doctors said that “She wouldn’t sleep if she was hungry”. We naively believed that and she ended up getting jaundice. She was born 3,890 KG and was down to 3,300 KG only after a few days. By day 7, she was 3,400 KG and by day 15th, she was about 3,590 KG but jaundice was all gone. All this time, we breastfed her 8 times a day and about 45-50 minutes per feeding. She wasn’t getting enough weight so we went to doctor again. Doctor said we could use bottle and that’s when we started to get very strict. For 5 days, we fed her 30-60ML after every breasfeed with formula, most of the times until she puked. And we were able to get her to 4,050 KG by day 25. Thankfully, all of her checks are fine and she is very healthy. But it is mostly due to formula support. I’m completely fine with pumping and supporting with formula but all these issues have taken their toll on my wife. She’s very emotional and prone to panicking. She doesn’t want to lose her milk and wants to try everything we can. A few more details; My wife is able to pump about 80-90 MK every 4 hours. We are not sure if this is normal. We have been using hands free electronic pumps Baby is completely fine and relatively fast with drinking from a bottle. She drinks about 90 ML in 20 minutes. We have been pumping after most breastfeeding sessions. Any recommendations anyone can give us? Thank you all in advance! submitted by /u/maaaet [link] [comments]
Have your parents ever admitted you weren’t a great sleeper?
by /u/regularsizedrudy_ on April 10, 2026 at 8:22 pm
Maybe it’s just me, but my parents insist my brother and I both slept through the night after a few weeks. My boyfriend’s mum says the same about him and his brother, and all my friends parents say it about them too. Yet my baby is almost 10 months old and is still waking so many times a night and it’s the same case for most of my friends with babies. It seems unlikely that this generation of babies are inherently worse sleepers, so I suspect our parents have simply blocked out the sleepless nights. Have your parents ever admitted you were a bad sleeper or are they all lying to us? EDIT: Okay maybe my parents were telling the truth after all! submitted by /u/regularsizedrudy_ [link] [comments]
Teething EBF 10 month old is biting
by /u/DoomChicken69 on April 10, 2026 at 8:05 pm
Baby boy is 10 months old. Teething like crazy, but now has 4 teeth in (top 2, bottom 2). Won’t take a bottle, won’t take formula, basically won’t take anything that’s not directly from the boob. I EBF, and we’re gradually weaning via solids and a bit of milk in a sippy cup now and then. Problem is, he’s started biting me while eating. I know he’s in pain from teething (and we’re giving him medicine and teethers), but I just cannot keep feeding him knowing he’s going to bite me. He’s broken skin, and it takes so long to heal. I hate this so much. Advice I got from friends was to unlatch him immediately and kind of ignore him for a bit. I’ve tried that, but it doesn’t work. He laughs(!) after he does it, acts kind of manic too. I’m not sure 10 month olds can ‘learn’. What should I do? submitted by /u/DoomChicken69 [link] [comments]
by /u/TheJanedalorian on April 10, 2026 at 7:40 pm
6mo, his night sleep seems to be about the same (two wakeups, usually but not always around 11pm and 3am) no matter if he naps for 5 hours or less than 1 hour during the day..anyone else have this experience?? submitted by /u/TheJanedalorian [link] [comments]
My kid’s so unhinged for no reason lol
by /u/Mundane-Jaguar6293 on April 10, 2026 at 7:04 pm
When he wants me to tickle him with my foot, he lays on the floor right in front of me while I’m walking and says “Step on me”. I love him but he cannot be saying stuff like this 😭 submitted by /u/Mundane-Jaguar6293 [link] [comments]
Accidentally overshared something personal with daycare giver
by /u/WolfWoman7 on April 10, 2026 at 7:04 pm
Okay. None of ya’ll know who I am IRL so IDC about sharing this story. 😭 So you know how most parents light up when talking about a trait they share with a child? Example; a baby and his dad both snore, or a baby and her mom share the same smile. My son’s daycare giver mentioned he didn’t poop through the day (as she always gives me a status). I recall earlier that he did in fact poop in the morning, so I mentioned it to her. I also mentioned that he probably takes it after me, because I poop in the mornings too. 🤔 I only realized while I was eating dinner, that I told a stranger (or, someone I’m not necessarily close with) my pooping patterns without thinking. Nooooo. 😭 This is like the worst mom brain. I’m laughing and crying inside. I’m sure this will be funny in a few years, but shit–I’m so embarrassed. I’m normally more cautious than this, I had social anxiety as a teenager and trained myself to assess my thoughts before speaking. And I kept that habit long after I got over social anxiety. Fucking aye. Excuse me while I go find a rock to hide under. submitted by /u/WolfWoman7 [link] [comments]